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Five Kick Ass Ways to See Each Other Before the Ceremony

Updated: Dec 20, 2019


One of the biggest decisions I see wedding couples facing when it comes to their wedding timeline, is whether or not to see each other before their ceremonies. These days, there isn't a right or wrong way to organize your wedding day, it's all about what's right for you! Here are a few ideas I've come across in my career, and I've loved them all!


Getting Ready Together


It may be untraditional, but getting ready together can be SUCH an intimate way to connect with each other before the shitshow thats about to ensue. It's a perfect way for those couples who want a more low-key day. What's important here is to do what speaks to you. If the wedding morning entourage seems overwhelming, choose to do something entirely different! It's your wedding day!











See Each Other Without "Seeing" Each Other


Maybe you'd love for the first time your partner sees you to be on your slow walk down the aisle, but you'd like to hear your partner's voice to calm your nerves a bit before you do. This is a great way to do that. Whether it's a hand hold around a corner, talking to each other through a door, or on a staircase, it's a great way to connect without messing with that traditional walk down the aisle surprise.






Read Vows at Your First Look


One of my biggest regrets from my own wedding is not writing my own vows. A large part of that is being an enormous chickenshit about sharing my feelings in front of everyone I know. If I could go back, I would have 100% had us reading vows at our first look. Something about hearing your own words, in lieu of lines pre-written for you, just makes the experience so much more personal. Another plus- you don't have to talk about squeezing each others butts in front of your grandmother.



Include Your Kids!


Couples get married at their own pace these days. So many of my couples have one, two, or even three kids by the time they get married! A first look is a great place to include your children, without the stress of wondering if they'll actually walk down the aisle. The kids get to take part, and it makes them feel special. Not to mention, the photos are killer.



Pick a Location That Means Something to You


Make your first look personal by choosing a location that is significant to your relationship. Seeing each other prior to your ceremony does alleviate some of the timeline stresses, since most of the photos are already finished before the ceremony even starts. This gives you a little more wiggle room to choose a location that you really love!





The moral of the story here is: do whatever you want. If you're traditional, do traditional! However, if its not right for you, don't feel obligated to do the "proper" wedding things. Think outside the box, play your favourite music, dance together, take a shot after your first kiss, walk down the aisle together, anything you want!


The best way to ensure your day is perfect, is to make it perfectly you.